Episode 17: Choice vs Need

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October 16, 2026  /  Khushboo Shah

Welcome to Episode 17 of Alien’s Guide to Being an Earthling – Choice vs Need – A Relationships Done Different Special . 

Join Dr. Khushboo Shah as she talks to an unconventional relationship – The amazing Rachael O’Brien and Troy Aldanmaz . The gift of this relationship – is they don’t try to hide or mask even the imperfections. They know their relationship isn’t perfect , and yet have a deep sense of gratitude for each other and themselves . This podcast is a great conversation for any of us who are in relationships or are looking at creating relationships that truly work . That is based on choice and not just needs . Practical and vulnerable , this episode is like a mini class in relationships . 

Do listen and feel free to share it with whoever you know this will contribute to . Enjoy !

Keynotes: 

  • What if you always chose gratitude for you and your partner in any situation, no judgments. 
  • Be willing to be in question when things get uncomfortable. 
  • Ask “ If I have this person in my life, will it create more?” 
  • Do you go into the need of a relationship? What if it was just a choice?
  • If you had no need, what would you choose?  
  • Having the five elements of intimacy: Trust, Allowance, Vulnerability, Honour, Gratitude with yourself first creates space for people that could be a contribution to your life to show up.
  • What if people in your life didn’t have to be perfect ?
  • Choosing for you isn’t choosing again the other person.
  • Creationship is when you come together, it creates more for everyone involved. Your lives expand along with everything you are creating . 
  • Consciousness includes everything and judges nothing. 
  • Vulnerability is having true caring and space for yourself
  • Only thing you cannot change is what you have decided that you have to hide from yourself.

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